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courtesy Eastern Courier and Howick Police
30-July-08
This column is part of a series on how
to help soneone who is experiencing abuse in a domestic relationship.
How
to approach your friend or family member:
Your response is
really important and can make a great difference.
If your
response supports and encourages your friend or family member to talk about the
situation, she may feel stronger and start to explore her options.
When
approaching your friend or family member to talk about domestic violence it is
helpful if you:
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Wait until
she is alone and it is safe for her to speak. Keep the talk private and confidential.
Women and children lives could be at risk. |
. | Approach
her in a sensitive manner. For example say something like "I am worried about
you because I've noticed……" |
. | Listen.
You don't have to have reasons or answers. Hear what she has to say. |
. | Show
empathy towards her her position as domestic violence victims are experiencing
many conflicting emotions |
. | Respect
your friend or family member's decision if she does not want to talk about the
domestic violence. She may not be ready to talk, she may be fearful of talking
or she may feel ashamed. It may take some time for her to feel comfortable and
safe to talk about domestic violence. |
. | Support
her to make a safety plan or pick up a Woman's Refuge safety plan, talk to a refuge
advocate or go to www.womansrefuge.org.nz.
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. | Offer
to help with children / support at police / lawyers / Work & Income / transport
/ an address for mail / company at night / grocery shopping / clothes etc. |
Whether she does talk or not she will still need your
friendship and support.
If she doesn't wish to talk the columns
over the next few weeks explore what you can talk about and what to avoid when
talking to your friend or family member is ready to talk and confide in you.
Sergeant
Brett Woodmass, Domestic Violence Coordinator

23-July-08
Over the next five weeks this column
looks at how to help someone who is experiencing abuse in a domestic relationship.
This
week is about recognising abuse and will be followed by how to broach the subject,
when and what to talk about and avoid talking about it, and it finishes with what
to do if this person remains in the abusive relationship.
How
to recognise if your friend or a family member is being abused:
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Has
a friend or family member approached you and talked about being abused? |
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Do you know someone close to you is being abused and who you want to help? |
. | Do
you suspect that a friend or family member is being abused and you are not sure
what to do? |
Following are some
signs that can indicate if someone is experiencing domestic violence.
Your
friend or family member:
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Seems
afraid of her partner or is always very anxious to please him |
. | Stops
seeing friends or family |
. | Stops
phone call when her partner comes into the room |
. | Says
her partner continually phones or texts her when she is out of the house |
. | Says
her partner is jealous and possessive and accuses her of seeing other men |
. | Has
become anxious or depressed, quiet and may have lost her confidence |
. | Has
bruises, sprains or cuts on her body |
. | Says
her partner gives her no access to money or that she must justify every cent she
spends |
. | Says
her partner wants her to leave her job |
Violence
against women and children includes a fear factor.
Many women
and children live in constant fear of violence.
They may also
fear that no one will believe them or that things will be worse for them if they
tell.
It starts when the abuser's partner chooses to be violent
against her to maintain the power and control in their relationship.
Next
week's column looks at how to approach your friend or family member.
Sergeant
Brett Woodmass, Domestic Violence Coordinator

16-July-08
I have spoken to many women who have
expressed their fear of going shopping at many of our large local shopping centres.
It is true that Police are dealing with a number of files
relating to bag snatches, and similar offences, and a number of these incidents
have taken place in shopping centre car parks.
For many, it
is essential to visit these places, to carry out business or banking transactions.
For others - well, a girl needs her retail therapy!
Let's
look at some strategies we can apply, to keep us safe.
- If
at all possible, avoid taking a handbag out with you. A jacket with generous pockets
will hold a money card, car keys, and a cell phone.
- Don't
"flash" large sums of cash around as you leave the bank, or ATM cash machine;
or paying for goods. While using an ATM machine keep an eye on your surroundings.
You may be being watched.
- Ensure shopping, and other valuable
items are stowed out of sight in your vehicle. This includes handbags, lap-tops
and brief cases.
- Lock your doors until you alight from your
vehicle. Keep them locked whilst you are mobile - and double check that you leave
your car as secure as possible whilst it is parked.
- Don't
leave hand bags or purses on grocery carts/trolleys.
- Move
about with a confident "air" " If you are responsible for banking cash - take
a buddy with you.
- Park where you and your car are not concealed.
Park under lights at night. " Use those "eyes in the back of your head." Keep
a look out at all times, and report any suspicious vehicles, people, or their
behaviour to the Police. Remember, preventing crime must be everyone's priority.
Constable Adele White, Howick Police

09-July-08
Police and local councils are receiving
increasing calls from the community regarding people riding mini-motorcycles.
These motor vehicles are great fun for riders but if they
are used inappropriately or in unsuitable locations they can cause problems.
Complaints
range from residents being disturbed by the noise, to our parks and reserves being
damaged.
There are many people in the Howick-Pakuranga area
with these motorcycles.
There are a few that cause havoc wherever
they go and have no regard for the damage or annoyance they create.
Many
aren't even wearing crash helmets or other protective gear which only puts themselves
as well as others at risk.
You may be sitting there thinking
where can my son or I ride our mini-motor cycle?
You are allowed
to ride your mini-motorcycle on private property approved by the property owner
or designated off-road areas approved by council.
Can I ride
it on the streets? You may not ride it on the street unless it complies with Land
Transport regulations ie: warrant of fitness, registration, licence etc.
What
about the local park? Parks and reserves are not the place to ride your motorcycle
unless it is approved by the council.
Councils have bylaws
in place to protect parks and reserves from such situations. Should you continue
to ride your motorcycle in a park or reserve then you can be prosecuted under
the Reserves Act 1977. This could lead you to losing your motorcycle forever.
For those of you who are thinking about buying one in the
future try to keep the above points in mind.
Remember anybody
wishing to set up a neighbourhood support group take a look at www.nsupport.co.nz
or give me a call at the Howick Police Station.
KEEP SAFE
Constable Merv Hotter, Community Constable Highland Park

02-July-08
To ring 111 or not to ring 111?
I
regularly go to community meetings and hear stories of people in our community
who witness various criminal activities but don't ring 111 at the time.
They
state various reasons as to why they haven't done so. These reasons vary from,
"I thought the police would be too busy" or "I thought I would pop in tell someone
at the station later," or "I just couldn't be bothered and didn't want to get
involved".
If you witness a crime that is taking place ring
111 immediately!
We need to know immediately.
Recently
a group of four males in a stolen car went to Meadowlands Shopping Centre and
attempted to snatch a hand bag.
A witness did not ring 111
but went home and an hour later telephoned police.
Meanwhile
the four offenders drove to Highland Park and attempted a second snatch. That
victim phoned police and passed a very good description of the offending vehicle.
Police in the area located the offenders, who were looking
to do a third snatch nearby, and were able to make an arrest and recover the stolen
vehicle.
This example emphasises the need to ring 111 if there's
something happening now. There is always a possibility that we're already looking
for the offenders nearby and fresh information is of great benefit.
When
reporting crime a registration number is great but a good description of the vehicle
is really important.
The police helicopter can observe and
look over a large area if they have a good description of the vehicle.
This
can also be of benefit to police on the ground that will quite often pass the
offending vehicle on the way to the incident.
Finally if you
witness an incident, ring 111. You never know next time you might be the victim
and need to rely on members of the public around you to get a description and
ring 111.
Constable Phil Savill, Howick Community Constable
